How to ask your girls to be bridesmaids during lockdown
All stages of your wedding planning are really important, and you should still keep that excitement going even throughout this lockdown period. So here are a few creative ways that you can ask your girls to be your bridesmaids even though you can’t see them.
Asking your girls to be your bridesmaids can be as big a deal as you want to make it. Lockdown excluded, some just simply ask their girls. Like I did. I sat down with each of my girls individually and asked them if they would be my bridesmaids. Abi over dinner at Soho House. Alice on the sofa at home eating a takeaway pizza. And I’m not even sure if I did even ask my sisters to be my bridesmaids. It was just sort of a given.
I did nothing special, but I’m not very good at keeping secrets, so it was more important for me to just ask. As opposed to doing anything fancy. Although fancy ways of asking your girls are actually extremely popular. And some spend hours of time thinking of wonderful ideas to ‘pop the question’. So why should that change now? Why should lockdown stop you?
Well it shouldn’t. Every single part of your wedding is really important. And you should still be able to carry that planning and excitement throughout lockdown too. So I’ve come up with a few creative ways, some rather simple – some a little more fancy – of how to ask your girls to be your bridesmaids during lockdown.
I didn't do anything special when asking my girls to be my bridesmaids. But I just simply couldn't wait to tell them. There is no right or wrong way to ask.
Asking your Bridesmaids that all important question…
So I thought I’d start with a really simple way to still ask your closest friends to be your bridesmaids during lockdown. I’ve noticed that we’ve all been doing a lot more writing and a lot more reading lately. Ordinarily, you might not think that a card in the post is an exciting enough way to ask your girls to be bridesmaids. But now, I think receiving post is one of the most exciting parts of my day!
But rather than just sending a card, why not make it a little bit more special. By adding a letter into the card just for that friend that lists all of the reasons why they are so close to you. Perhaps write about past memories and what they mean to you. And how they are going to help make your wedding day better by being a huge part of it.
There are so many small companies desperately trying to survive lockdown too – so sending a card from a small business would be appreciated by more than just your bridesmaids right now. So here’s a couple of my favourites that you could send.
White Olive Design – This card by by the lovely Jacquie would be prefect for those planning a more traditional classic styled wedding.
Too Wordy – This card from too wordy is simple, minimalistic and perfect for a contemporary wedding.
Martha Brook – This card from Martha Brook is for those who want to keep it simple, but with something that still has a real wow factor.
Sending cards is something that I’ve always loved doing, but if it’s not your thing, or not big enough for you that’s totally ok. So next on the list is a super luxurious way to still ask your closest to be your bridesmaids.
A super luxurious way of asking your closest if they would like to be your bridesmaids…
I’ve been following this company since they started a couple of years ago, and the founder is actually a friend of a friend. She set up the business for the very reason of not finding a way she liked to ask her girls the same question. Although we’ve never met, I absolutely love the concept and want to support another small business. It really is an incredibly special way to ask your besties to be your bridesmaids.
Of course with that special way, comes a higher price tag. But right now, when you can’t physically see your girls to ask them, I can’t really think of a better way to wow them than with one of Parcel’s Bridesmaids Proposal Boxes.
At £49 per box, they include a candle displaying the words ‘Will you be my bridesmaid?’, a Lapcos hydrating milk sheet mask, a Coco Chocolatier lavender milk chocolate and a bespoke box of 5 mini polaroids. All of those classy and elegant gifts, sent in a beautiful box along with a Be My Bridesmaid card and personalised note.
*I know that this might seem a little expensive. But think how many times you might have had dinner with these girls during lockdown. And how much that might have cost you. When you look at it that way, it’s not so expensive after all.
Perhaps lockdown is the best time to ask your girls to be your bridesmaids. Now more than ever they might need a little pick me up. Just like you deserve too!
There is quite a popular phrase, the way to the heart is through food. Or something like that anyway!
Edible ways to ask your bridesmaids
As you can’t actually see one another right now, the only real way to ask your best friends to be your bridesmaids is by post. That is unless you fancy a Zoom Call – which wasn’t going to be part of my creative ways to ask your bridesmaids list. Unless you take it to the next level and reveal the question within a set of Zoom Quiz Questions.
So I thought it would be nice to look at something that you might not have found, seeing as it’s listed on the website for a different purpose. When we’re feeling a little low, I think most of us tend to reach for the biscuit jar. And ‘proposing’ to your bridesmaids by way of a biscuit delivery could be the pick me up they so desperately need right now.
The personalised engagement letterbox biscuits from Biscuiteers would be perfect for it. I know the name suggests otherwise, but the biscuits include a ring (linking it to the wedding), a bunch of flowers, a champagne bottle and two glasses full of champagne. With a big white heart ready to personalise. The words ‘Be my Bridesmaid?’ fit perfectly.
*At £25 each, they are still on the pricier side, but something really special and a bit different. I actually received them from my maid of honour on our wedding day – and I actually kept the heart rather than eating it as a little keepsake. But it was a struggle, as the biscuits are lovely!
I’m not sure how lockdown is for you. You may be working harder than ever before and need something a bit quick and easy. But you may also have been furloughed or worse still lost work completely. Which means perhaps you now have a little more time on your hands.
For the DIY Bride
So this is for the DIY bride, that fancies the style of creative that is a little more hands on. We came to Nottingham to live with my mum and dad throughout the lockdown process, and I’ve been working from my mums crafting room. So this idea came from something I’ve been watching her make. Boxes!
Now she’s made a collection of fabric and card boxes. Seeing as you may have limited resources, I thought I’d just share the pattern for the card boxes with you. The fabric ones require the use of a sewing machine, but if you would like the pattern, just let me know in the comments.
Once made, you could fill the boxes with small things that your friend loves. Simply tie them with string and a handwritten tag to ask that all important question. Or you could fill it with something that cleverly reveals your request for them to be your bridesmaid. Sometimes there is something really special in something so lovingly made.
*Attached above is the template for the card box. If you would like the template for the fabric box then just send me an email on email@example.com
Asking that all important question doesn't just have to be via a Zoom call. There are so many ways of asking your closest to be your bridesmaids.
So there are a few ways that you can get creative with how to ask your bridesmaids to be your bridesmaids. I know now isn’t an easy time for the weddings industry, and so if you are having to postpone your wedding plans, I’ve written a blog post including a few tips that you can read here.
This is such a touch time, particularly for those couples who are having to change plans they’ve dreamt of for many years. Keep smiling, and just know that I am here for you. I’m actually offering a new virtual wedding planning service. So if you aren’t sure how to continue planning your wedding throughout this really difficult time – I can plan it for you. For just £90.
I’m also offering 50% off my Luxe On the Day Styling Package. So that you can be sure that your wedding day will run as smoothly as it possibly can when the day does finally come around. Because it will! Bookings have to be secured during the lockdown period for the offer to be valid.
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